More Relationships, Less Intimacy

Those who read my Twitter likely know that I am not all that fond of the concept of polyamory, or the idea of consensually dating multiple people at once. For example, on 2/2/2022, I tweeted the following:

Currently thinking about the idea of living in a small apartment before logging on to work at my Metaverse cubical before seeing my eight partners all [sic] a virtual restaurant that doubles as a virtual orgy — I want to die thinking about this, I’m not joking.

I have been reading quite a bit of Hunter S. Thompson recently, and my writing style had become more vivid as a result. The same day I posted this, I tweeted:

The way female-to-male transgender people are viewed is basically as a real life version of those 90’s movies where a woman is just trying to go to college to study to be a doctor but the male main character turns her into a stereotype of a woman and this is seen as a good thing.

This is not to justify the unfortunate implications of the first tweet I quoted — if I felt they could be justified that simply, I would not be dedicating an entire article to my thoughts on the subject — but this is to give you an idea of the headspace I was in at the time.

I began thinking about this after watching a video mirrored onto Twitter from Tiktok, where a polyamorous couple made up of one man and one woman react to the man getting a text from a girl he gave his phone number to. Neither of them have any charisma nor the skills needed to make a funny skit, and the video just comes off as awkward as a result.

After posting that tweet, my good friend @PinkNBlackcommi — who herself is polyamorous — and I began discussing the idea of polyamory and how it could impact our wider culture. However, while discussing the topic with her, I realized that many of my statements come across as anti-polyamory by itself, which is not my position on the topic.

Before we continue, I want to make one thing clear: If you manage to have multiple, healthy relationships with consenting adults — assuming nobody is being lied to nor cheated on — I see no issue. This is a free country, and one of the most important aspects of freedom is the ability to choose something as personal as who you date. However, I am concerned about how wider…